1. The Past is Your Lesson
Summer 1986, my mom was giving six months to live. On December 13, 1986, at the age 33 my mother was taken to the Lord. My mother’s last words to my father, “take care of the kids.” My father had a new responsibility. To be a mom/dad to three children under the age of 13.
Some time in 1988, my father remarried because he thought we needed a mother figure. During this time period, my brother and I would get beat up. We had to bring home every subject to be reviewed. If our homework wasn’t done correctly, we would get bet up by “stepmom.”
My father files for divorce. We than relocate with dads new girlfriend and her three kids. At that time it was what your called the Brady Bunch. House of six kids, and two adults. From the age 9-18 was a blur. All I remember is disagreements between my dad and his girlfriend. Mostly about the kids.
“Don’t waste time bathing in the negative experience. Spin your energy and focus your attention on moving on.”Les Brown
After graduating from High School, I wanted to get away. I moved in with my boyfriend and suffered verbal and physical abuse. I remember one time going grocery shopping; and coming home putting the sugar away. He didn’t like the spot I put the sugar. He threw me over his shoulder, pinning me down, and started choking me.
Being constant belittled that I will never make it on my own, I started to believe the lies. I had so much hate for him build up. When my friends wanted to do something, I had to ask permission if it was okay, to go. I had enough of this and left him. It didn’t end though, because he would stalk me.
The saying of meeting someone when you least expected it is true. I wasn’t expecting to find someone and fall in love after going through misary for five years. However, I did. We will be married 15 years in April of 2019. Through our marriage we faced many ups a downs.
The ups having our three children. The lows, suffering postpartum depression, finding out our son has autism. Helping our daughter with depression and self-harm. Using our past experience, we are able to reflect on the hard life lessons, and use them to help others.
2. The Present
The Present is Your Gift
Raising our Family
When I reflect on my pass, I couldn’t move on until I forgave the pass. Parenting is hard, and I couldn’t imaging losing my husband to cancer, and having to raise three kids.
“If you want to begin to alter your circumstance and alter your life, it’s very important that you begin to change your attitude about yourself.”Les Brown
Each day, I am thankful for my blessings and gifts from God. The days are long, but the years are short. I am thankful for each day, we are able to be alive, the house we live in, the food we eat, clean water we drink, and so much more. What are you thankful for?
My oldest daughter who I nickname Care Bear. She has such a nurturing heart and tender spirit. Since birth she was always a fighter, because she almost died. I love hearing about her goals, listening to her play her musical instruments, watching her designing clothing.
I am thankful that she is alive each day. She has been struggling with depression and is in a safe place getting help. It’s gotten so bad, that she started to believe the lies people told her. As a result, she wanted to die.
I couldn’t image my life without her. My heart breaks thinking of all the families who lost a love one to suicide. Cherish each day, for tomorrow isn’t promise.
My son who we nickname ducky. He is nonverbal with autism. Finding out my son had autism was so depressing at first. When he was 18 months old, he started to lose all his words, until one day they where all gone.
Can you image? One day being able to speak, the next day no words. It use to be that I was the quiet one. I never spoke up for what I believed. However, when my son lost his words, I found mine.
Ducky is such an inspiration to many. My father always called him his little man, and found strength in seeing the mountains he had to climb. My son may be different, but he is no less. He is so smart, has a sensitive spirit, and taught me patience.
Gift number three we nickname Kix. Yes a unique name, but let me explain. When she was a baby, she would kick her legs like crazy. So the name stuck with her as Kix.
When I was pregnant, I didn’t know at the time it was twins. At 12 weeks into the pregnancy, I knew something was wrong. I went to the hospital and had no idea what was going on.
Fast forward, and I am blessed with a sensitive, lovable, fun, witty, girl. God, could of taken her, but he didn’t. She is a survivor, just like her older sister.
What I love most about her is she isn’t jealous of others. She encourages others to do there best. She won’t bring you down, but lift you up instead. God has surely blessed me with three unique gifts to impact this world. I am so thankful for my blessings.
3. The Future
“Life takes on meaning when you become motivated, set goals and charge after them an unstoppable manner.”Les Brown
Never stop dreaming, because your dreams are your future. It’s when you stop acting upon your dreams, that causes failure.
Sunday, set your intentions for the week. This way your week has a purpose and direction. When you write down your goals, and can start to visualize them, you become unstoppable.
Life is a gift, enjoy the journey, count your blessings each and everyday. The only person who is holding you back is you. Stop blaming others for your unhappiness, and take control of your dreams and start believing in you.
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